Sex with a relatively new partner can be quite an intimidating experience for some women who may not know what to expect from you in bed, there may be several of reasons why a women may feel mildly discouraged or intimidated in bed and there are certain things which may not help at all and instead could genuinely scare her. Below are some tips worth following to avoid letting the same happen to your partner in bed.
Painful Actions
While some women may thoroughly enjoy painful play in bed, most women will find it extremely uncomfortable and a guaranteed turn off, things to avoid are biting, choking her with a grip on her throat or hitting her.
Rough sex can be quite a turn on for some women, but its important to remember that its not a turn on for all women; if it's something you are keen to try in bed make sure to discuss it before hand, prior to startling her with unexpected rough antics that may simply freak her out and leave her with a not so resounding impression of you.
Sex toys and other new sexual ideas
Introducing sex toys and other new sexual activities is quite normal in many relationships, the danger with scaring your partner off is most likely to happen during the early sexual encounters. Before you crack out the whip you would be wise in introducing her to your bag of toys and ideas gently, ease her into it, and let her decide which toys and ideas she does like and which she doesn't. Again, its worth discussing or dropping a subtle question during foreplay to gauge her feelings and discover what she finds appropriate and what is likely to freak her out.
Anal Sex and Play
As for anal sex, the women you are in bed with may simply love anal sex or on the other hand find the idea emphatically revolting. The one thing you must avoid doing at all costs is exploring the anal area at all, no matter how subtle you think you are being, unless you know for sure she is into that.
Many women find unexpected anal penetration and general anal play very discomforting, know how your partner feels about this before you start fondling around the back door.
What you say and what you don't say
Complete silence during sex can be quite eerie for some women, you don't need to talk dirty or even moan and groan, just some heavy breathing can be enough in making your partner feel more involved and part of the experience.
Oppositely, talking too much or revealing too much about what you want and desire can equally leave her confused and freaked out, talk a little dirty by all means, she'll probably enjoy it, but be sure to avoid revealing your deepest desires or showering with her too many compliments during sex as this will leave you looking desperate or obsessed.
If you find it difficult to strike the balance between saying too little and saying too much, just let a little heavy breathing be the worthy substitute.
Unusual Fetishes
If you do have an unusual fetish or kink it's worth bearing in mind that your women may not be into it all. Not all women are the same, and some may find your fetish quite erotic and arousing while others may react at the opposite extreme and be left running for the door as quick as she can.
If your unusual fetishes and sexual play are an important part of you sexual life and you want to share this with your partner, talk about it and learn what she may enjoy and may not. You may find yourself having to make compromises or you may find she's willing to try it all, you'll only know when you discuss it with her.
